“Progress lies not in enhancing what is, but in advancing toward what will be.” -Khalil Gibran
I gotta be totally honest. I did not start off this morning in a good mood. Today was my weekly check-in where I weigh myself once a week and take a couple of progress pictures. I was not pleasantly surprised. I was up .5 lbs (after maintaining my weight the first two weeks and lowering my calories after the first week). The reason this is so frustrating is because when you start a health journey you want to see results. You are working hard to do everything right–get adequate sleep, go hard in your workouts, measure your foods to the gram. So when you see no outcome your mind turns pretty negative. “What’s the point?” “You’ll never get there” “This is impossible” “This is going to take SO long” are phrases that come to mind. I can really get down on myself, questioning the process and being tempted to resort to my old ways of restricting extremely which then so directly leads to binge eating behaviors.
But then, I stop myself. I took a class called Positive Psychology in Denmark. My incredible professor preached positive psychology techniques, one of which being gratitude, another one being finding the positive or silver lining in any situation (which may seem obvious but when is the last time you actually tried it?). We as humans are incredibly resilient. When we flip the narrative from negative to positive, it creates a whole flood of other happy thoughts along with it. I started to take a closer look. I have not binged (or had the urge to binge) in a month now. This used to be a bi-weekly occurrence and at its worst a daily one. This is momentous because one binge-eating session can set me back at least a week in my progress goals (and mentally–you really start to lose trust in yourself). I thought some more and realized these first few weeks are experimental, figuring out the greatest number of calories I can eat for weight loss. This is not a get thin quick scheme. What I wanted in the first place was to find a process that would bring me lasting results. Then I thought some more. I have been working out 6 days a week for the past 3 weeks, with 5 strength training sessions and 3-4 cardio sessions. I have noticed visible muscle gains in my body and I am already feeling stronger. My progress photos show definite results, even if they seem minimal. It is rare that I have had anything more than mild hunger and I am energized throughout the day. I really have nothing to complain about. Yes, I have a little more work to do figuring out the right recipe for me. But I am on the right track and I am on the cusp of some great progress.
The point is, when the results seem slow or nonexistent, look a little closer. Find something bright to latch onto and grasp it hard–let the positivity flow over you and throughout you. With this newfound positivity, hold your head high and forge ahead. Quit measuring yourself against others and especially against yourself. Do the work, tweak, work some more, and the results will eventually come. I believe in that.